Your Rainforest Mind

Support for the Excessively Curious, Creative, Smart & Sensitive

THE QUIZ

Do you have a rainforest mind?

Take the following totally, completely and utterly unscientific quiz to find out.

image6• Like the rain forest, are you intense, multilayered, colorful, creative, overwhelming, highly sensitive, complex, idealistic, and influential?

• Are you misunderstood, misdiagnosed, and mysterious?

• Like the rain forest, have you met too many chainsaws?

• Do people tell you to lighten up when you are just trying to enlighten them?

• Are you overwhelmed by breathtaking sunsets, itchy clothes, strong perfumes, clashing colors, bad architecture, buzzing that no one else hears, angry strangers, needy friends, or global hunger?

• Do you see ecru, beige, and sand where others see only white?

• Do you spend hours looking for the exact word, precise flavor, smoothest texture, right note, perfect gift, finest color, most meaningful discussion, fairest solution, or deepest connection?

• Have you ever called yourself ADHD because you are easily distracted by new ideas or intricate cobwebs, or OCD because you alphabetize your home library or color-code your sweaters, or bipolar because you go from ecstasy to despair in 10 minutes?

• Are you passionate about learning, reading, and research, yet perplexed, perturbed, and perspiring about schooling?

• Do your intuition and empathy tell you what family members, neighbors, and stray dogs think, feel, or need even before they know what they think, feel, or need?

• Do you find decision-making about your future career and deciding what color to paint the bedroom equally daunting due to the deluge of possibilities assaulting your frontal lobes?

• Are your favorite spiritual conversations the ones you have with trees, rocks, and babbling brooks?

• Does your worth depend on your achievements, so that if you make a mistake or do not perform up to your standards, you feel like an utter failure as a human being now and forever more?

• Do you crave intellectual stimulation and are you desperate to find even one person who is fascinated by fractals or thrilled by theology?

• Are you embarrassed to tell your family and friends that you find it easier to fall in love with ideas than with people?

• Have you ruminated about the purpose of life and your contribution to the betterment of humanity since you were young?

• Do you get blank, confused stares from people when you think you have just said something really funny?

• Are people awestruck at what you can accomplish in a day, but if they knew the real you, they would see that you are actually a lazy, procrastinating, slacking impostor?

• Are you afraid of: failure/success, losing/winning, criticism/praise, mediocrity/excellence, stagnation/change, not fitting in/fitting in, low expectations/high expectations, boredom/intellectual challenge, not being normal/being normal?

• Do you long to drive a Ferrari at top speed on the open road, but find yourself always stuck on the freeway in L.A. during rush hour?

• Do you love skipping down new sensual paths and exploring imaginary worlds to discover beautiful connections between fascinating objects, words, ideas, or images?

• Do you wonder how you can feel like “not enough” and “too much” at the same time?

• Are you uncomfortable with the label “gifted,” and sure that if you were to use the word as a descriptor of people with some sort of advanced intelligence—which you would not because it is so offensive—that it certainly would not apply to you.

If you answered “yes” to at least 12 of the above questions, you likely have a rainforest mind. If you ruminated about the answers to many of these questions and often thought “it depends,” you, too, fit the profile.

 

(from my book Your Rainforest Mind: A Guide to the Well-Being of Gifted Adults and Youth) ProberGuide_CoverCROP_72dpi_4web

222 thoughts on “THE QUIZ

  1. This is so me. I am so lucky to have a teacher at my school that told me this. I am not alone and now I understand myself!

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  2. American society’s obsession with competition attaches a degree of social stigma to words like “bright” and “smart.” Saying “I’m gifted” might as well be saying “I’m a pretentious jerk!” As sensitive people, we learn pretty early to try to hide or minimize our gifted traits to get along with others, but that type of behavior can easily lead a person to think that what they’re hiding is bad. We end up fearing that “living up to our potential” will alienate our friends, but being so conscientious to contribute leaves us feeling guilty for “failing” to do so. I want to connect deeply with others but fear the scope and intensity of my inner world will frighten them away–since it sometimes feels overwhelming to me! I am excited to explore your site and your book, both of which I am glad to have finally discovered.

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  3. Wow, I experience/relate to all of these! I never knew all of these feelings, desires, and characteristics I have are all related! How exciting! Thanks for this awesome blog and book! But I wouldn’t necessarily consider myself to be gifted. Any tips for finding/embracing my “gift”? Thanks so much 🙂

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    • Thanks for writing, cbrock. For now, just read more posts on the blog and my book. There are many tips in those places. If you’re already read them, another excellent book is The Gifted Adult by Jacobsen.

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  4. oh my God! I was in tears halfway through. I was diagnosed “gifted” as a child and found out it was more a curse than a blessing. When I tell this to others they look at me like I’m some sort of self righteous freak. I finally felt recognized when reading this quiz. Feeling too much and not enough at the same time….. arguing with people about shades of colors that are clearly there. I’m also frustrated with my own insatiable need to read every book on the planet about philosophy, religion, and psychology and this started as a child. Oh my! I need this book.

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  5. Hi Paula,

    I recently found out that I am a gifted person in my mid 40’s while escaping a brutally abusive marriage. If it were not for that incident, I probably never felt the need for searching of who I am. It seems that my life has a pattern of searching for my self identity whenever abuse overpowered my balance and peace in life and this time, the level of search reached the identification of gifted talented and creative adult “diagnosed”? by professionals and recognized by few more… However, I am feeling the need that I must own my reality of being the marginal population of the bell curve instead of the mean of the bell curve who can be very mean to the either margins who are minorities.

    At times, I wonder how to survive this world full of non-rain forest minded society while innately rain forest minded.
    I wonder how to reconstruct my life to be a fully independent person.
    Rather than a lot of books and passive reading, at times, I would like person to person interactions in the rainforest arena and it feels more like the oasis in the dessert.
    Sometimes, I wonder if it is the right thing to feel afraid to let my wings open in fear of envious ones in tantrums. I wish I can let my lungs have the fuller airway for refreshing deep breath instead of slouching on purpose just to save my head from being scratched against a low ceiling. Not sure where I can be happy without feeling as if I am in hiding.
    Thank you for listening and posting your blog.

    I will continue to read your book and become more familiar with feelings of identification. It is still brand new to me.
    Enjoy a beautiful day~

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  6. About 18 and the rest “it depends”, but am I “gifted”. I wish I could know for sure. I really don´t feel very intelligent, everybody else seems more intelligent than me. Yes I have a masters degree and I´m a qualifed teacher and speak 3 languages but I had to put quite a lot of work. I love having deep pholosopical conversations but I´m an expert in nothing and normally everybody else just reply by shutting me down with their knowledge (except other wannabe philosophers who don´t care about expertise but the exercise of philosophy). I struggle to write down my ideas in an orderly fashion and to express what´s in my head, normally hundreds of things at once. As soon as I open my mouth to say what I want to say and that look so great to me, I just seem to forget how to talk and half of what I wanted to say, so nothing sounds that great any longer. I hate arbitrary rules and oppressive laws that are supposed to be for “the greater good” and have a hard time accepting life as it is. I am very respectful of rules that makes sense to me and of others though and hate not being respected in the same way or when rules aren’t followed. I have lots of sensory issues that make my life difficult and stressful but it seems not so difficult as to be considered a problem. I live in my own head a lot. Sometimes I take things too literally and fail to see second intentions even though I am also very good at reading others, but not always. Are all this contradictions normal? Is my tested child even “gifted”? Pshychologist said yes but she just barely touched the “passing score” and it´s not the obvious “genius”. But everything you explain, and the rainforest mind analogy makes me feel like finally someone gets me. Maybe a label isn´t that important. However it is to me, to know myself better, to not let others misdiagnose me or mislabel me. But what can you do when you can´t afford testing? I can’t go thinking I am something without being 100 % sure because I just always need to know the full truth. I think most things in life are grey but when it comes to me I only see black or white. Do I make any sense?

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    • It’s normal to have contradictions and complexity, Laura. Testing in only so useful. I don’t recommend it. There can be so many variables influencing the results. Maybe you don’t have to use the label gifted but you can definitely agree that you have a rainforest mind. Then you can determine what that means for you. Which traits resonate? Try and get to the grey when it comes to yourself!

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    • Yes. Because you just described me as well.

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  7. Wow, there are some definite truths about me here!
    I knew I was a highly sensitive introvert when I read about that in Introvert, Dear.. and now this makes a whole lot of sense when it comes to my thought processes as well!
    Do you have any suggestions regarding how to study? I’m trying to major in nutrition and one thing I have a hard time with is keeping true to my goals cause I’m such a lazy procrastinator.. a person who tends to give all or nothing.
    How do you not be afraid of things like failure / success? I have a hard time getting through that barrier. I want to be perfect and facing the fact that I might not perform perfectly for people is hard. and if I succeed, I don’t want to be drowned in praise. I don’t want praise.. I want to be deeply appreciated for who I am. If that makes any sense.

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    • It makes total sense. I write about procrastination, perfectionism, failure/success, etc. here on the blog. So that’s the place to start. Keep reading. These things are complex so there aren’t any easy answers, as I’m sure you know. My book goes into greater depth on these topics. The chapter on Perfectionism might be a big help. OK? I’m glad you found me on Introvert Dear. Good to have you here.

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  8. Hi Paula,

    I only recently found out I am a highly sensitive Introvert and like some other commentators here I’m such a procrastinator – and extremely perfectionistic at the same time.
    Basically, I want to succeed, but I don’t like praise and attention (of people I don’t care about)…

    Anyway, I could handle this dichotomy so far, but lately it got out of hand.
    For example: I wrote my bachelor thesis in the last three days before the deadline – and still got a “Sehr gut” (an A).
    And that’s my problem: I’m too good in compensating my procrastination and now it’s getting even worse.

    I know this sounds crazy and there may be people out there who would be thankful for being this productive in this short amount of time, but I’m really stressed and scared of the day I won’t study at all, just to fail. Because I think I kind of feel guilty for being more “successful” or “better” as some of my friends call it.
    Do you have any advice for me to stop feeling guilty and stop procrastinating?

    Please excuse my English (it’s not my mother language and I haven’t used it since my graduation in 2014) and thank you!

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    • Procrastination is complicated, particularly because it’s connected to perfectionism. A great book is Procrastination by Burka and Yuen. It goes into the complexity of it. It doesn’t address giftedness directly, as I recall, but a lot of it is applicable. Also, I’ve written about it more on the blog is you type “procrastination” or “perfectionism” into the search engine. Thanks for sharing!

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  9. I have been told I am gifted. It is more of a burden than a blessing as people tell me I am too abstract and theoretical. I am very ideational, strategic, and intellectual. At work I feel like I can never be myself. I am not completely introverted but at work I am becoming so…it is survival mechanism…I feel like I tried very hard to adapt to other people, but they can’t see to accept my personality and the lens through which I view the world…I am started not to care about this at all so I suppose it is ok…

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  10. I got 10 yes’s and 11 no’s. Might I suggest a new quiz? Because I definitely had a RFM as a kid and teen, even 20s, but now in 30s, I have balanced out.

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  11. I’ve a question. I’ve looked at the list of the characteristics of adult autistic females, and they are strikingly similar to those you list here. Especially the characteristics of Aspergian females. I forwarded this list to many of the members of WrongPlanet.net (an autism forum) and… what do you know, a lot of the people there could identify with this list very well.

    In your honest opinion what’s the difference between having a rain forest mind and having the mind of an autistic/aspergian? Are they just two separate terms for describing the same phenomenon?

    Like your posts, thanks!

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    • There are some overlapping traits but they are definitely different. Certainly the aspergian has the advanced intelligence. And certain sensitivities. I haven’t studied the females in particular so can’t give you a detailed response. But I’m guessing you’d find differences when it came to the capacity to read social cues and understand them and respond to them, understand metaphors and subtle humor, have considerable empathy, consider various opinions and openness to change. Things that would fit in the social-emotional category. Perhaps some others who know more can chime in here. Sorry I can’t be more specific, Toren. (some on the forum may have mislabeled themselves aspergian when they may be RFMs??)

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      • I am someone who is scoring roughly 20 on this test and people have quite often suggested that I might have Asperger’s. My experience has been that often my difficulties ironically stem from being “too much” in areas where people with Asperger’s tend to be “too little”. For example, having unusually high appreciation of metaphors and subtle humour and word relations, too much ability at reading social cues and seeing through facades, seeing everything in continuous shades of grey rather than in black and white absolutes, etc. Both misdiagnosis, and failure to get a correct diagnosis, can be problematic, and I certainly found that when I was getting help from people that thought I had Asperger’s, they were often mis-assessing the reasons for my difficulties and ended up making things worse.

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        • What a great way to differentiate, Ian. Too much versus too little. What you describe here would lead me to conclude that you’re not aspie but you are RFM. But, of course, I can’t legitimately diagnose not knowing you!! Thanks for sharing.

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  12. Thank you Love thank

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  13. On one hand, I tend to call ‘unscientific psychology’ pop-psychology and I don’t like it much. On the other hand, your blog touches me like I’ve rarely been by said pop-psycho, and these series of questions are all but a few painfully accurate depictions of my state of mind. Thank you for reminding me I’m far from being alone.

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  14. Hi Paula…how are you…I actually face criticism from people and have a very eccentric relationship with my imaginations…but I am below average in science , mathematics and logic… I also have a low memory power…and inability to take strong decisions with an introverted lost-in-thought personality and I have a fear of stentorian voices authority violence abuse threats insensitive comments and people who hate me for my rebellious non-conformist opinions and I don’t feel so good about life…I just feel like being transported to a world where I can better connect with strange flavors of unusual illogical irrational metaphors…do you think I am dumb…? I know I have a low IQ but still I love the strangeness of my whole being and I don’t want to change or be forced to change…

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    • Of course, Chethi, I’m not able to make an assessment, not knowing you. But if you connect with many of the quiz questions, it could mean that you have a rainforest mind! IQ isn’t the only measure of intelligence.

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  15. Hello Paula its nice to meet you…

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  16. Me to a T !

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  17. I have tears in my eyes. My whole life has been spent trying to be dumb (I am only realizing this now) so that my mom and sister would like me. I remember one time as a kid thinking how superficial and stupid their concerns were but was met with so much anger I never judged them again. As a matter of fact I convinced myself that they must be right and that I was wrong. As I got older I hid all my curiosity because I felt “stupid” for the stuff I thought about. I also discounted my intuition because how can anyone “know” without data. I actually didnt do that great in school because it was boring and had no meaning to me. I would have NEVER considered myself “gifted” until I found this article. I feel so guilty for judging someone privately in my mind but my lack of discernment has led me to accept and stay in bad relationships. Could I actually be smart??? This is so contrary to my self image but could be the reason I struggle so much with cognitive dissonance.
    Thank you….

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  18. I am so happy that I came to know about the concept of “rainforest mind”. I now find it easier to tell people and myself that I am not as strange as I they/myself thought I was for I am just someone with a “rainforest mind”. After all;” It isnt that simple in the rainforest…”. Thank you 🙂

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  19. Hey, maybe don’t misuse mental health labels (ADHD, OCD, bipolar) if you’re trying to convince people you’re a good authority on intelligence? I feel like using those terms in such a frivolous way is a sign of less intelligence, if anything. Those conditions are serious, and should be treated as seriously as any other health condition.

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    • Thank you for your feedback, Liu. These are serious conditions and my intention is not to diminish that. What I’m saying is that there are times when RFMs are misdiagnosed with these conditions. At the same time, there are many folks who are twice-exceptional who can be both gifted and ADHD, etc. So it’s not simple for sure. I apologize if I’ve offended you.

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  20. Ummmm… This is on point and a bit scary at too! LoL but I’m glade to know more about me and my personality RFM I embrace …. Me.

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  21. Wow, interested in finding out more! Where can we get book?

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    • The easiest place to get the book is on Amazon.com. Thanks, Shelley! If you click on the photo of the book on my homepage, it should take you right there. If you’re not in the US, you may have an Amazon in your country. Of course, you can also order it from an independent bookstore, Barnes and Noble, or Powells Books!

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  22. I feel this applies to me, then again, I feel under qualified, … yet enough, not enough…
    Learning, through books, articles, blogs, you tubes. Not educated in the schooling sense, but always learning. Feeling things deeply. So much applies, yes.

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  23. I wish I could counsel with you directly! I have so many passions and talents and so little time to pursue them I become overwhelmed and depressed at times. I have recently set about producing music videos 2-4 times a year with music I’ve written and I’m also a dance teacher. These barely satiate me. I long for other adults I can dream with and collaborate with on large scale projects without scaring people away!!!

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  24. I am not gifted, but 14 apply to me for sure. I’m not sure what you mean by some of the questions.

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  25. I am so grateful to find that I am not sick. I have sought help before because I assumed that my behavior was pathological, because I never felt like fit in. I am always at odds (usually quietly) with employers because I won’t comply with the process they have in place. Too often, it is participation in a prescribed system that is the measure of success. It is wonderful to know that being a misunderstood genius is a thing. I can move forward now with a different outlook. Thank you.

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  26. What a neat site. Just stumbled across it. Why rainforest? I get that a rainforest is wildly fertile and diverse.

    Also, I sense a distinct lack of the word “fun” in your questions. I can be mired in the impossible to solve challenges, trying to figure it out, stress and angry and speaking down to myself, and yet when I raise my head I think how fun ’this’ is.

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    • Interesting observation. But you may notice that there is some humor in the questions, yes? So, yes. There is fun. If you keep reading my blog, you’ll see some references to the analogy. It’s the most complex ecosystem, highly sensitive, intense, colorful, full of life, misunderstood, being cut down…Make sense?

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  27. I’ve entered the world of the “gifted” because of my daughter. I haven’t made her test her because she’s only 3, but I can tell she’s far ahead… too conscious, too smart for her own sake, too imaginative and too aware of things that are too serious for her. Me on the other hand have never been bright. Not in maths, not in sociology, and mildly bright in arts but nothing extraordinary… I also have brain disfunction (very light, but important enough to make me have dyslexia and spatially unsecure, I can get myself lost around the corner).
    I have had a lonely path as an Expat. I am foreign here in Argentina and and an outsider in Brazil where I was born. Yet I feel everything so deep. This quiz describes me in the 90%. I always thought I am too aware and too emotional. Never understood… and things are so clear to me, that we all need to ask some questions to know what path to take in this life, and most of us can’t even handle it… never mind understand. I am conscious and fighting so the future generations have a better place to live than this one we are leaving them, and too worried about climate change. How can people not care?
    Everything strikes me. People is so numb!. I think I might have something in common with gifted people.

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  28. OMG! This is me!. I started to hardly understand myself better when my two chidren were detected as gifted. I have been crying all time while reading this. I Will not feel so Alone from now on. LOVE from Spain.

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  29. I feel like I finally came home

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  30. I feel heard and understood. As a highly sensitive person with a rainforest mind, I’m constantly battling with depression and anxiety, as well as sense of guilt coming from my emotionally-neglect parents’ financial support. They are visiting me right now and I feel so exhausted. All my creative energies are gone…

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  31. I’ve come home. At 52, I am loneliest I have ever felt. Which is saying something because I have spent my entire life feeling lonely. But at least here, I don’t like a complete misfit. I’ll feel deeply understood. Thank You for the gift that you bring Paula.

    Ps. I’m a therapist who typically ends up working with gifted, highly sensitive, intuitive Indigo types. Adults, adolescents and children. I love my work and the healing I bring into the world.

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  32. I’ve come home. At 52, I am loneliest I have ever felt. Which is saying something because I have spent my entire life feeling lonely. But at least here, I don’t feel like a complete misfit. I feel deeply understood. Thank You for the gift that you bring Paula.

    Ps. I’m a therapist who typically ends up working with gifted, highly sensitive, intuitive Indigo types. Adults, adolescents and children. I love my work and the healing I bring into the world.

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  33. I’m so excited about this whole concept. I think describing our minds as Rainforest Mind is just genius. I’m finally getting some proof that it’s a real thing. I’m so glad for that!

    You’re a big inspiration for me, Paula. Not just because of understanding myself, but imagining how this will help thousands of children come out of anxiety, depression, and existential crisis. And giving a helping hand to gifted children.

    Please visit my blog, called INFP Muse, where I’ve written an article on Your Rainforest Mind, to honor your work and creativity. And to honor every person with Rainforest Mind.

    —> https://www.infpmuse.com/blog/your-rainforest-mind-calling-out-all-infps-and-sensitive-curious-people

    Thanks for showing me my life matters!

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    • Thank you, Steve. I’m so happy to hear this. I will check your website now! Yes, your life matters!!

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      • Wow! steveharper2, that was great. I hope your post gets shared widely! OK, if I share it on Facebook?

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        • Oh sure, thank you! 🙂

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        • Hello Everyone in this thread now and to come,
          I wanted to share a book recommendation that reminds me so much of Paula’s insights that helped me “own” who I am and begin living very confidently in my own skin!

          One of the books that struck a chord with me last year is called,

          Living with Intensity: Understanding the Sensitivity, Excitability, and Emotional Development of Gifted Children, Adolescents, and Adults
          Book by Michael Marian Piechowski and Susan Daniels

          I found out about it from the SENG website/newsletter. It was the book that confirmed my giftedness to myself. If you haven’t read it yet, I highly recommend it. It is like reading Paula Prober’s Rainforest Mind site, a warm, refreshing insightful, empathetic in depth description of what living in a gifted mind is like.

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  34. What is the SENG website/newsletter mentioned by Dana Longpre?

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    • SENG is an organization “supporting the emotional needs of the gifted.” They have articles, conferences, and other resources for families with gifted kids and adults. I’m presenting this coming week at their conference in Houston, Texas. USA.

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  35. Dear Paula,
    after finding a TedTalk by Lynn Berresford on Gifted Adults and realizing that my 21 year old son is most likely gifted (call from the teacher in 5th grade to let us know about his very high IQ, traits, etc.) I am finally able to see the possibility of a better relationship with him. Our first improvement was for me to be straight forward and honest with him about this idea of “Giftedness”. I was trying to cleverly introduce “Giftedness” to him and he sensed my agenda. Being straight forward with him about it has improved our relationship right away. I think I can better understand now that his traits, underachievement (full college scholarship then dropping out) come from a different place than a typical 21 year old. I do have to be careful to not expect him to ask to attend MIT because we now know he is gifted. He must now begin to accept it as he hopefully investigates on his own. My question is what now? Recommended reading? TedTalks? Finding a good therapist who has experience with gifted adults? Online college courses?
    I justed started reading “Gifted Adults” by Jacobsen and “Rain Forest Mind” looks like it should be next.
    He really downplays his abilities but I think I see a little spark in his eyes when we now talk about utilizing his abilities. I even joke with him and call him a UNR…Untapped National Resource. lol. He gets it. I KNOW he gets it.
    Any suggestion on moving forward would be greatly appreciated.
    Thank you so much Paula.

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    • I’m guessing that it’s a relief for your son to have you understand him as gifted. (even though he may deny the label) I’m guessing that he’ll appreciate the straight forward honest approach. Certainly, I’d recommend my blog and both books. The newer one, the Journey book, might be easier to start with because it’s a faster read and more light-hearted. I list many resources for further study in both books. It’ll be important to check with him to see what he wants regarding coursework, counseling, etc. And maybe explore whether you have these traits as well. 🙂

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  36. Good day and so many thanks for the book, the idea and the quiz I took yesterday: I answered Yes 29 times. The one blank I drew was about this one I don’t grasp. What is it about really? Randomness? Way of life? Freedom Ideal versus Constraints or Mass Transportation? (“Do you long to drive a Ferrari at top speed on the open road, but find yourself always stuck on the freeway in L.A. during rush hour?”) I didn’t extrapolate from the very specifics and terminology of this one. But if you clarify what it means, I will feel enlightened. Again thousands thanks for the immense gift of the Rainforest mind. Kindest regards, Caroline

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    • Yes, Caroline, I can see how that one isn’t clear. It’s meant as another metaphor. The RFM often feels slowed down by others. Others can’t keep up. The RFM has to wait for others, has to explain something over and over, has to walk when they want to fly. Make sense now?

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      • Oh, yes the FLYING!!! EXACTLY HOW I SAY IT! JUST LIKE DASH IN THE INCREDIBLES, “RUN AS FAST AS I CAN?!” IN AMAZEMENT WHEN HIS MOTHER FINALLY TOLD HE COULD BE HIS WHOLE SELF!! SO MANY GIFTED REFERENCES IN THAT MOVIE!

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      • Thank you very much, dear Paula, I understand so very clearly now, and even at multi-levels. All in all, I wouldn’t dare answer that one without getting to feel further mixed feelings (extrapolating on the meaning of it all I suppose: What if I get lost and know nothing of the way other people are doing what they do the manner they do it? What if something else is at stakes? What if I am to understand more about something I don’t do the way other people do what they do. I would need to learn more and even more. – Already, saying “I” versus “Others” makes me very uncomfortable. I want to be accepted and even loved, I suppose. Or just not trying. On mute. On contemplation. Maybe. Else: Keep learning ahead, even when there is no one around anymore. One can always come back and write it down to make it clearer, at least for oneself. The island is nearing… Maybe it’s the Ferrari idea, in a bubble. Added kindest regards, and thousands thanks, Caroline

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