Your Rainforest Mind

Support for the Excessively Curious, Creative, Smart & Sensitive

Gifted In Finland — What Are Gifted Adults Like Across Cultures?

16 Comments

photo courtesy of tapio haaja, Unsplash

Kaisa, 26, shows all the signs of being gifted. Maybe even exceptionally so. What are the signs?

“…I learned to read at a young age and have always been an avid reader and super curious about everything. I have always been overly sensitive but was quickly told by parents and environment to shut down my sensitiveness. In kindergarten I was asked what I wanted for Christmas and I answered, ‘peace and love for the world.’ I was 5. I was also very concerned about hunger in developing countries and the waste produced by plastic bags…”

At an early age: Avid reading, intense curiosity, high sensitivity, concern about justice and environmental issues

“…I’m now at university also where I face people telling me that it is not worth it to think so much. To me it is like telling a bird to stop flying…”

Being accused of overthinking when it is actually deep, analytical, creative awareness, and curiosity. An extremely active mind. You are just *over* when compared to regular thinkers. You may be anxious and start ruminating but this is different from your capacity to think. With anxiety, you will want to learn how to self-soothe and calm your nervous system. With thinking, well, I say, keep flying.

“…I sometimes get so excited about an idea or theory that I cannot continue reading or thinking because it causes my body to get super energetic and I have an urge to move. The other day I was looking at DNA structures for one course and I almost started crying because they looked so beautiful and I got shivers when thinking about how the world is so beautifully organized from the tiniest particles. People tell me I’m intense, too serious (I’m rarely serious. I find myself quite funny.) too much, idealistic. I have had problems finishing my degree (mainly because I’m unmotivated there as I am not challenged enough). My problem is also I have a strong artistic and a strong intellectual side of me, I weigh them as equals and I feel like I need to explain myself to people all the time…I’m planning to inspire and serve the world…I know I could talk myself out of it but then it feels like self betrayal.”

Intellectual excitement that stimulates body responses can be explained via Dabrowski’s overexcitabiity theory. There can be somatic/sensual high abilities along with the intellectual, emotional, and imaginational. You have the capacity to deeply appreciate and respond to life’s complexities and subtle beauty. Sense of humor and idealism may not be understood by others. School may not be challenging and so motivation is difficult. Often you feel the drive to be of service or create a better world.

“…Finnish culture teaches people to be humble so if one excels at something and one is proud of it they are looked upon as… arrogant, etc. Multipotentiality or multitalented is not yet understood or supported by the society that well…in general the response from the culture has been ‘who do you think you are’…”

You have many interests and abilities and are told you need to focus and pick just one thing, which is impossible, stifling, and ridiculous. It is not unusual to be called arrogant even if you are trying to hide your achievements and your interests.

These are the signs of giftedness. In Kaisa. In Finland. And around the world.

______________________________________________

To my bloggEEs: Well, my frequent flyers, who do you think know you are?? Isn’t it fascinating to see the similarities across cultures? Thank you to Kaisa and all of you for sharing your experiences. I welcome your comments here and your emails from around the world. Here is an article on exceptional/profound giftedness for those of you who suspect you might be at that end of the spectrum. And, speaking of flying, if you need a lift because these times are particularly hard, listen to this and start defying gravity! 

 

Author: Paula Prober

I'm a psychotherapist and consultant in private practice in Eugene, Oregon. I specialize in counseling gifted adults and consulting with parents of gifted children. The label "gifted" is often controversial and confusing. I use the metaphor of the rainforest to describe this population. Like the rainforest, these individuals are quite complex, highly sensitive, intense, multi-layered, and misunderstood. They're also curious, idealistic, highly intelligent, creative, perfectionistic, and they love learning. I've been an adjunct instructor at the University of Oregon and a guest presenter at Oregon State University and Pacific University. I've written articles on giftedness for the Eugene Register-Guard, the Psychotherapy Networker, and Advanced Development Journal. My first book, Your Rainforest Mind: A Guide to the Well-Being of Gifted Adults and Youth, was released in June 2016 by GHF Press and is available on Amazon or at your independent bookstore. My second book, Journey Into Your Rainforest Mind: A Field Guide for Gifted Adults and Teens, Book Lovers, Overthinkers, Geeks, Sensitives, Brainiacs, Intuitives, Procrastinators, and Perfectionists, was released in June 2019.

16 thoughts on “Gifted In Finland — What Are Gifted Adults Like Across Cultures?

  1. Totally relate to everything she said. I would just add that a few years back when I was really sharing myself and the results of my creative work, artistic, writing and research, I was feeling that I was being judged as arrogant. I was also trying to make a business out of my work. Last week I was talking to a male friend who has done really well in financial business and we talked about how my being ‘superior’ but it’s just that I really excelled. Most of the time for men in the business world….being excellent gets you in good positions and company. For me, I’ was perceived as something was wrong with my ‘personality and my behaviors’ and I knew what I knew that I knew others didn’t…….and I can look back and see how this happened at other times and I didn’t realize it. Different countries and different communities…..why must it be so hard I want to ask, but I know why. Thanks for sharing.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. I love these having an EE son. I didn’t know he had taught himself to read until we were in the doctor’s office one day and he picked up a book and started reading it to me. It was a simple book but one he had never seen before. He was 28 months old. Since then it has been non-stop reading and flights of fancy on learning. He pokes and prods around at things until he finds something that interests him and then he is all in on it. He starting to look into going to college and struggling with the choice. As Kasia said having to pick one thing is impossible. Thanks for sharing!

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Ahhh I feel like Kaisa is the Finnish me! I relate to all of this so much, including being transported by the wonder of reality and being both creative and intellectual.

    So fascinating to think about how this is perceived or engaged with in different cultures! Hmmmm… *goes off to ponder and google*

    Liked by 1 person

  4. There ARE good people in Finland who work with gifted in Turku and Helsinki- I don’t know about Rauma and other cities

    Liked by 1 person

  5. “…I sometimes get so excited about an idea or theory that I cannot continue reading or thinking because it causes my body to get super energetic and I have an urge to move”

    OMG I thought I was the only one!!!! In fact, I don’t even like to move, but whenever that energy comes in, I feel like I need to run. It’s funny that we, and some other people are experiencing the exactly same thing across the cultures. I did actually google about that ‘weird energy’ and results were not found (🤭) I’m laughing too much when reading this blog today, thank you and greetings from Malaysia 😄💚

    Liked by 1 person

    • Oh yes, MayMay! That’s why I write this blog! So you aren’t alone anywhere in the world and you find self-acceptance and self-understanding so you can be all that you are. Thank you for telling us where you live. Sending love to Malaysia! (You might research Dabrowski and psychomotor overexcitability or even just the concept of body-mind connection. I suspect it’s both. Maybe another reader will explain it!)

      Like

  6. Hello Kaisa, and others. This ‘who do you think you are’ sounds just so familiar to someone who grew up in Finland. I think the Jante Law describes also the Finnish society very well. Of course I have met some wonderful Finnish RFM folks over the years, they do exist, but as always, take time to find.

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.