Admit it. You were either a bossy girl or a sensitive boy.* And, of course, you were more than that. Much more.
But, girls. You had opinions. You knew how the games were played and expected everyone to follow your lead. To do it right. You read all the books voraciously. The library was your happy place. You knew what you knew. Didn’t everyone want to learn the correct way to play hopscotch? And chess? Didn’t your teachers need you to correct their spelling errors? You couldn’t help but express your intellectual enthusiasm.
They said you were bossy. And you were. But this was not a bad thing.
We need more bossy girls.
And boys. You had big emotions. Tears. Meltdowns. Your empathy was deep. You had trouble adhering to the boy code. The pressure to be tough, cool. To squelch your enthusiasm for learning. Your parents were confused because you were multiplying numbers in your head and were so darned articulate. How could you be so smart yet so immature? But you weren’t immature. Your sensitivities were as vast as your intellect. You felt great sadness for hurt children and for endangered animals. You were soft-hearted.
They said you were immature. Not manly enough. They were wrong.
We need more sensitive boys.
Now, I know, my darlings. You are not so bossy anymore. Not so emotional or empathetic. There has been so much pressure to not be you.
But that’s why I’m here.
And it is time.
Time to get your bossy on. Time to express your emotions and empathy again.
Because with your bossy, with your sensitivities, with your trust in your true self, you can change the world.
Let’s change the world.
To my bloggEEs: Were you a bossy girl or a sensitive boy? Tell us stories about your early days and how you have been able to trust yourself again or how you are struggling. And, by the way, I know it is the holiday season. So I’m sending you this post to help you make it through, if it is a difficult or lonely time. Much love to you all.
(*maybe you were/are nonbinary, but that’s a topic for a future post…)
(Note: Of course, you all know that our gifted girls are also highly sensitive and empathetic. But this was not the focus of this post. Just in case any of you were wondering.)