Have I told you that I love people who are all of these things? Introverted, highly sensitive, introspective, super smart, and empathetic?
I also love “overthinking” perfectionists who obsess about creating a better world through raising the consciousness of humans, healing the dysfunction in their families and communities, parenting compassionate children, or finding loving-kindness in the chaos.
And let’s face it. If you’re reading this, you are an introverted, sensitive, introspective, smart, empathetic, overthinking, perfectionist. Am I right? (For those of you new to this blog, this means that you have a rainforest mind. (RFM)*)
And, even though you could be one of my best friends, well, you may still be anxious, lonely, overwhelmed, or in despair.
For many reasons.
Are you an Introvert? Chances are that you’re not the life of the party. In fact, you avoid parties. Why do people go to those things anyway? What could they possibly enjoy? Small talk? Puleeze. But you may be pressuring yourself to socialize more because that’s what normal people do. But the pile of 15 half-read books by your bed? Now, that makes you giddy. It’s not that you don’t like people. It’s just that more than one at a time is such a bad idea. On so many levels.
Are you Highly Sensitive? You may be easily overwhelmed by things that other people do not even notice. This can be embarrassing, as in, you have to leave the room because the sound of George chewing drives you bonkers, or the smell of Chanel makes you sick, or you’ve painted your living room 12 times and it’s still not right. You also have deep and wide-ranging emotions so you’re often seen as a drama queen or a sissy. Not only that. You’re deeply moved by a starry sky or by a well-crafted TV commercial for auto insurance.
Are you Introspective? You may be seen as self-indulgent, self-absorbed, or even narcissistic. This is frustrating because, in reality, you’re determined to understand the nature of humanity and, in particular, your own inner demons. All of this courageous inner exploration is the generous gift you give your ancestors and future generations. Your willingness to face the dark night of your soul is the opposite of narcissism. Perhaps you’ve been told to be less serious. Have more fun. Don’t they know that introspection is fun? And, hey, you’re saving them from your demons, for heaven’s sake. Where is their gratitude?
Are you Super Smart? I would have used the word gifted here but then you may have stopped reading. Right? But you are gifted. Your capacity for learning and understanding is vast. There are many thoughts going on in your brain and often several at one time. Even if your schooling experiences didn’t result in high grades or spelling bee championships, even if you aren’t a rocket scientist, your thirst for knowledge is unmistakable. You make connections, see relationships, and adore libraries and bookstores. You’re the intellectual fire hose to everyone else’s garden hose.
Are you Empathetic? This might also be spelled empathic. I’m never quite sure. Either way, you may have intuition and compassion that is extraordinary. You experience others’ emotions and burdens and you want to be of service. You might even have psychic talents. Clairvoyance, for example. Dreams that provide answers to your questions. Connections with the metaphysical or shamanic realms. This particular trait may be the one that you hide from the most. Especially, if there are misdiagnoses, religious zealots, or judgmental relatives in your past lives past.
Are you an Overthinker? I’m sure that you’ve been told that you think too much. What’s really happening is that you’re doing what comes naturally. I might even suggest that everyone else is underthinking. Of course, we need to distinguish this from rumination, which you might also do. You may worry excessively because you have a creative mind that can generate many thoughts. Worries, anxieties, and fears among them. But rumination is not the same as your natural capacity for deep, analytical, creative, fabulous overthinking.
Are you a Perfectionist? You can be persnickety to a fault. You may be terrified of mediocrity and failure. You might be a carefully honed procrastinator. Not ideal. You might need therapy to grapple with all of it. (Lucky for you, you’re introspective.) But, that’s not the whole story. You were born with a healthy perfectionism. You’re passionate about beauty, balance, harmony, precision, and justice. And that is ideal. And needed. Now. In these times. Most definitely.
So, my darlings, if you’re anxious, lonely, overwhelmed, or in despair, and if you’re an introverted, sensitive, introspective, smart, empathetic, overthinking, perfectionist. You have a powerful, effervescent, multidimensional rainforest mind. And you, yes you, are among my best friends.
I mean it.
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(*Note: If you are an extroverted RFM, you have all of these traits, except the obvious. You could also be a combination of both. I shall write about you soon-ish.)
To my bloggEEs: Tell us how you fit or don’t fit with these traits. What are some of your examples of your introversion, sensitivity, or perfectionism? If you’re an extrovert, how are you different? What are your questions and concerns? Thank you, as always, for being here. I so appreciate hearing from you.
January 16, 2019 at 5:15 pm
Her: “Tell me all about yourself.”
Me: “Come back with a warrant.”
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January 16, 2019 at 5:36 pm
I was so relieved to find out about introversion. It’s not that I don’t enjoy people’s company, I’m just highly selective!
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January 16, 2019 at 9:21 pm
Me, too. Highly selective. And one at a time!
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January 16, 2019 at 7:02 pm
Hugs to all of you.
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January 16, 2019 at 8:27 pm
I resonate with all of this! I do have to say that I have made perfectionism work for me, rather than hold me back now. I used to dream up stuff and then never try to create it as I knew it would never look like it did in my head. Now I go for it and how it comes out is always fine with me as I have changed my outlook. I look upon the mind image as a template, not the end product and am always surprised at what the projects ends up like rather than upset that it isn’t how my mind saw it.
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January 16, 2019 at 9:22 pm
That’s an important strategy, Michelle. Thank you.
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January 16, 2019 at 11:56 pm
I’m the extroverted RFM but otherwise… yeah, nail on the head. Reassuring to read during my moments of rumination and self-doubt. ❤
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January 17, 2019 at 12:32 am
Thanks, River. If you want to share a bit about how it’s different for an extroverted RFM, we’d love to hear it1
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January 17, 2019 at 1:01 am
Hi Paula, thank you so much for your post, just what I needed this morning! You are so right. And what a laugh, yes, I’ve got at least 15 books on the floor by my bed, waiting to be read…. Don’t you think we’d need to find a new way to express the way we are, what our personalities are all about? ‘Introvert’ and ‘extrovert’ reduce people to only two things, which is really rather black-or-white. Thanks to Elaine Aron, we now know that there are highly sensitive people who are extroverts, so perhaps this means that the two categories we currently use are not quite a mirror of what and who we truly are? For example me, I really love partying with people that I appreciate and can talk to, people who understand that I need a 10-minute break to do the dishes behind locked kitchen doors while everybody else is dancing away! But I’m not partying with stiff and boring business or bank people, I much prefer reading a good book. So what does this mean – that I’m HS but extrovert in some situations and not in others? Or maybe we’d need to expand the notions of ‘introvert’ and ‘extrovert’?
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January 17, 2019 at 9:44 am
I suspect that many RFMs might not fit easily into a certain category. I think it’s part of the complexity. That said, I am clearly an introvert. So, sometimes it’s pretty obvious. But other times, not so much.
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January 17, 2019 at 3:13 am
This is beautiful, thankyou. Wierdly I’m naturally an extrovert but I’ve been ‘burned’ so many times that introversion seems the safer bet most days. I love being around people but I flit between being brave enough to get out there and be myself with people and hiding away in little cave, lol. Many thanks for this.
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January 17, 2019 at 9:45 am
We might need a new category: burned extrovert. Thanks for writing!
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January 17, 2019 at 4:37 am
I would love to sit on the couch in the far corner of the party, talking with you. This is perfect. Thank you! mwah!
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January 17, 2019 at 9:45 am
Oh, yes, Jackie!
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January 17, 2019 at 6:56 am
It makes me feel better to read your posts on these subjects. All my life I have felt so weird.I have tried to understand myself and why I don’t fit anywhere. I always feel like the oddball in a group and have been known as the quiet, sweet, sensitive one my whole life, especially in my large family. Reading this makes realize there are so many people who are the same.
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January 17, 2019 at 9:46 am
Yes, you’re not the oddball here.
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January 17, 2019 at 7:45 am
That’s pretty much me!!… Not so introvert, but still not the center of attention or a party girl…
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January 17, 2019 at 9:47 am
It’s beginning to look like the more extroverted people are the ones who comment on blogs…Thanks Saskia.
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January 17, 2019 at 8:36 am
I am all of the above. I have been practicing energy work, which has basically saved my life! I was in a constant state of overwhelm, depression, and crippling anxiety, but I am able to live in the muggle world without so much overwhelm now. I just have to keep up the energy work, continue to grow, and take very good care of myself. I have to give myself permission to take care of myself, and look out for myself : )
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January 17, 2019 at 9:49 am
Energy work has also been essential for me, too, Carol. I’m reading a book right now that I like. ‘Energy Healing’ by Ann Marie Chiasson.
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January 20, 2019 at 8:43 pm
I do a daily energy routine learned from Donna Eden, and took an online class from Jeffrey Allen. Life saving stuff! And teaches us/reminds us who we really are : )
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January 17, 2019 at 1:04 pm
All of these things. I am all of these things right down to the detail of 15 half-read books. I’ve already edited this short statement several times. I am currently processing feelings of being too needy, too over-thinking, and too perfectionist at work. Also, my mind is restless since my winter term course is starting later than usual and I don’t have the usual “new things” stewing up there. Today, I put two post-its at my work station and they say: I AM ENOUGH and I AM IMPORTANT. Thank you for this post Paula. You have reminded me of who I am, including the beautiful, brilliant parts.
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January 17, 2019 at 1:34 pm
Thanks for writing, Vicky, even though you had to edit several times. I think that may be why some people don’t comment. It’s takes too much time to make all of the edits. Or to make it short when you have so much to say once you get started! I’m sure many readers will relate to those affirmations.
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January 17, 2019 at 3:55 pm
So many books, so little time…
I confess to having moments where I dream about running away to a cave somewhere, one that’s big enough to fit lots of books. Either that or a cave with a good wi-fi connection, then I just need my iPad with a range of reading apps 📚😌
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January 17, 2019 at 7:14 pm
Ah, yes. Sounds nice. Thanks, Kris.
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January 17, 2019 at 9:05 pm
Prior to a very unfortunate string of experiences at school my 6 year old son was not introverted. But this describes him to perfection and makes being his parent a beautiful challenge. His layers are amazing, intriguing, breathtaking, frustrating at times. He has always been all of these things.
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January 17, 2019 at 9:20 pm
He’s lucky to have you. A parent who understands and appreciates him.
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January 18, 2019 at 8:29 am
As an ambivert, I enjoy parties bc it maximizes my ability to connect or revisit people in the shortest amount of time. I can spend ten minutes with six different people rather than go out for coffee six times. Then I can spend those other five hours reading. 😉
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January 18, 2019 at 9:42 am
Ha! Great idea!
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January 18, 2019 at 8:31 am
It’s actually one of my resolutions this year to finish any half read books that I started 5+ years ago!
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January 18, 2019 at 8:43 am
Ok I didn’t want to leave three comments but I can’t let this one go.
As a clairvoyant, empathic, religious zealot, I don’t think this issue is black and white either, even if I am a unicorn!
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January 18, 2019 at 9:43 am
Three comments are fine, Iilurazko. Yeah, it’s rarely black and white when talking about a rainforest mind. Thanks for reminding us. 🙂
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January 19, 2019 at 9:45 am
Every time you write a post in your blog, Paula, I feel you know me as if you were myself. Or even better than that! But this post is awesome, deep and resonating: I perfectly fit in every single word you wrote above! Indisputably! (So: Congratulations!! I am amazed.)
And not only yours are soothing words; I also enjoy reading what other RFMs say, as I frequently share their thoughts and feelings… or I enjoy knowing how smart they are and feeling that other like-minds are out there, or reading how successful they are, or how they fortunately managed to solve their issues. 🙂
Love to all you!
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January 19, 2019 at 10:27 am
I”m so happy that my posts are resonating, Someti, along with the comments here. Thank you for adding to them. I get so much satisfaction writing this blog. Thanks for reading!
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January 24, 2019 at 9:29 pm
Reblogged this on Fox&Co. Mental Health and commented:
10000% me. #INFJ #Introvert #Perfectionist #Overthinker
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January 24, 2019 at 11:04 pm
Thanks, Mina!
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January 24, 2019 at 9:30 pm
ha me to a tee! love it.
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January 26, 2019 at 2:16 pm
I think I am all that, except that I am an extrovert. Or maybe not. I’m not sure really. I am very sociable and love company, being with people and parties. But I am also very selective, I like “quiet parties” with people who can talk about a variety of things and will enjoy the music and dance not go to get drunk, behave foolishly and be annoyingly loud. I like company and I am very open about myself and my thoughts and my feelings, only to feel later that nobody cared or understood me and they probably think I’m just an idiot. I have very few friends, most of them introverted actually, although I am quite good at having lots of acquaintances and meeting new people. I don’t really need more friends, I am happy with my reduced number. Sometimes I love and need being surrounded by people and at those times I socialise with all the acquaintances I can if my friends aren’t available. Others I prefer to stay alone, with my thoughts and my cat and my little family. Generally I always feel like I don’t fit in too much even though I adapt to different situations quite well. Can one be both, extroverted and introverted at the same time?
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January 26, 2019 at 4:05 pm
Yes! Laura. My next post is all about extroverts. I say at the end that you can be both. It’s called ambivert. Stay tuned!
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January 26, 2019 at 4:15 pm
Can’t wait.
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January 27, 2019 at 9:07 am
Paula, Great post – so attuned and empathetic to what it feels like… just perfect :).
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January 27, 2019 at 11:11 am
Thanks, Gail! 🙂
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January 27, 2019 at 6:17 pm
Thank you, once again, dear Paula. This is me 100%…a few examples for those who care to read…
Introversion: yes, always books at bed—usually 2 on the go, constantly refreshing the pile, mostly from my city’s decent library. My computer allows me to type and drain my words/thoughts faster than I can do on paper and READ almost ANYTHING, especially when lacking someone sensitive to talk to 🙂
>Sensitivity: I have had LOTS of ideas and projects on the go since as long as I can remember. People have always assumed that I simply love being busy, but this is false; I love ‘down time’ to myself (introversion) to work on my ideas, projects and skills, and to have peace to think and physical space to spread out simultaneous projects (dining room table, plus small desk). I adore learning across disciplines and helping others (I am a teacher) hence why I am naturally busy. I treat myself to working in a cafe or library often because I love being in quiet public spaces to work, BRAINSTORM ideas and pick up tidbits of conversations in the languages I know, and figure out what language is being spoken even if I don’t know that language…because to me, that is fun to do.
When people write off ideas of mine that I have put some thought into as ‘crazy’, ‘impossible’, ‘too difficult’, ‘a waste of time’, etc. it does sometimes hurt (on multiple levels, if I don’t remind myself of this blog and all the people who share on it, and of the things I am literally writing about, that I tend to forget about myself as relative to other people). That brings me to…
>Perfectionism/Over-thinker/somewhat Intelligent/Empathetic:
>>First, a semi-side note: Is having ‘a hard head’/ being stubborn a trait of being gifted? Or is that just called intensity?
I strive to be the most forgiving, caring, compassionate person I can be (and I am working on ‘perfecting’ those “imperfectible” traits–let’s thank the French for that word…), BUT, if someone DARE mess with an idea that has the potential to help people…watch out…because I will focus like they never thought possible, and work hard to connect all the dots to make that idea work and help people to (if at all possible) ultimately help themselves, and no…this never works out perfectly (why would anyone think a person with ideas would assume such a naive outcome)…HOWEVER, I will work damn hard to make sure that no details are overlooked and that things are logical, ORGANIZED, clearly communicated and presented so project goals are exceeded and no one’s feelings are hurt in any part of the process.
In my mind, this is not evidently ‘over-thinking’–more like doing something well because if you are not going to do it well, then either a) don’t bother, or b) really just don’t do it at all, before you potentially do more harm than good to others and the planet. Nonetheless, turning a wild idea into reality could be assumed ‘crazy’, ‘impossible’, etc. by people who don’t easily see the connections that pop out so quickly and obviously to a RFM.
>Introspection: All the ‘ideas’ and ‘brainstorming’ thanks to introspection are intense–Bloom had a point; creativity takes some knowledge and a bunch of ‘steps’ (though I don’t think there is an essential ‘order’, or maybe RFMs just take pleasure in practically skipping steps…) but true creatively is a ton of fun and makes life worth it. We all know that most actual job descriptions are beyond lame, yet we live in a system that mostly forces us to have them (…and most workplaces need a SERIOUS overhaul on multiple levels, in physical and non-physical spaces…). So maybe with intensity, we are just more aware of how to dial it up and down… or at least, try to learn to do, because sometimes intensity hits and you have to let the ideas out before your brain/heart/fingers metaphorically explode. Thanks to ‘dialing’ intensity (a skill I think I am learning here), we could conclude that our idea flows are not ‘crazy’, but (semi-) ‘controlled’ crazy.
Your input, please: What do you do when your co-workers and family members think you are ‘crazy’, ‘too ambitious’, ‘trying to hard’? For the younger followers, do you find that ‘experienced adults’ have a way of saying in a patronizing way that you are clearly ‘trying to burn yourself out’ when really you feel like you are ‘on a roll with something’ and are energized by making progress?
Much love to you all. One last thought: 2019 is the UN’s International Year of Indigenous Languages ❤
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January 27, 2019 at 6:48 pm
Thank you so much cmd1122. These examples are so helpful. I hope some readers will respond to your questions here. Sadly, I suspect that many will have your experience of being misunderstood and patronized. I’m delighted that you are seeing how those people are wrong and your glorious rainforest mind is pulsing and expressing and benefitting them, if they could only see. I’m not sure stubbornness is a trait but it doesn’t really sound like you’re stubborn. You’re determined, passionate, and powerful. That’s what it sounds like to me. And we’re so lucky to have you that way! ❤
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January 27, 2019 at 11:11 pm
I have just been told I am stubborn for my entire life…for all sorts of things and ideas, but I am seriously going to try and ignore that label and determine what people are actually trying to imply/say. 😉
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January 28, 2019 at 12:00 am
One other way to think about it. There may be times when it’s important to be stubborn. Like when you’re standing up for what you believe in.
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January 28, 2019 at 5:46 am
Re co-workers thinking you’re crazy:
I was also a teacher (before having kids). About 2/3 into my career of 14 years, I was in a specialist training program where we did some personality surveys to learn more about our thinking/learning styles. I always came out with completely different outcomes than the other teachers. It was then that I understood why I had difficulty getting along well with teaching colleagues. Most teachers are not analytical and don’t persevere to see things holistically, nor from various perspectives, as I do naturally. Oh so many times as a trainee and as a new teacher did I get strange responses to my questions on how my mentors think and plan. I came at challenges from a different angle, and it was rarely recognized nor appreciated. Only in private alternative schools did I find fellow teachers who shared my excitement for pulling ideas apart until they made sense.
My advice: When you find a teaching placement where you feel you’re working alongside your ‘tribe’, enjoy the ride and cherish the moment. Unless you’re at university level, methinks it would be a rare find.
When people think you’re working too hard or going to burn out, it usually looks to them like too much work or more trouble than it’s worth. But that is them, placing their values on you and your work. Find a mentor with whom you can have these conversations, and they should be able to help you navigate your particular situation without stepping on too many toes.
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January 28, 2019 at 9:35 am
Thanks for sharing your experience, Jackie.
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February 2, 2019 at 9:10 am
“When people think you’re working too hard or going to burn out, it usually looks to them like too much work or more trouble than it’s worth.” Bingo, you’ve hit the nail on the head here.
If I had a nickel for every time I’ve been told a version of “it’s not perfect, but it’s the way we’ve always done it and change is too hard” or “that’s a good question, no one’s ever asked that before” to what seems obvious.
I’ve never understood why so many people are comfortable showing up to the same place to do the same thing the same way every day. Why are innovation and hard work so undervalued? Because most think it’s too much work, I guess.
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February 2, 2019 at 10:15 am
Often the rainforest-minded person has more capacity for knowing and learning and more energy for creativity and problem solving. It can be so frustrating to work in a setting where others don’t have similar skills.
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February 5, 2019 at 12:11 am
For some people, it seems that thinking is just too hard and they prefer to settle into a routine. We need a new category of personality for thinking style, analogous to introvert and extrovert; the thinkers and the doers. The thinkers get their energy from mental activity, and the doers get their energy from physical activity.
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February 5, 2019 at 9:22 am
Hm. Interesting, Dennis. Makes sense.
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February 7, 2019 at 4:25 am
Yes, Dennis. Perfectly said.
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February 20, 2019 at 2:33 pm
Hey CMD – we share a few things in common! I suspect us “rainforest” folks also share similar Myers-Briggs and Clifton Strengths personality types. For the latter, “input, intellection & learner” are in my top 5, all about gathering new info and making sense of it… I have multiple books on the go, physical *and* Kindle!
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January 27, 2019 at 6:52 pm
Hm… I’m pretty much all those things except for introversion, ambivert here. I feel like in each category I haven’t quite learnt yet how to take care of myself in my extra sensitivity and thus often lean into a maladaptive use of the trait (rumination, rationalization, analysis paralysis). It feels so unfamiliar to read about it here as something to celebrate, and not as a burden that negatively sets me apart from other people who seem less sensitive, less worried about existentiel questions, less interested in ethics.
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January 27, 2019 at 7:49 pm
It can certainly be a burden when you can’t find others who understand you and who have similar traits. Keep reading, RainySunshine. You’ll find ideas on how to deal with rumination, paralysis, etc. My book might also help. There are many ideas and resources. You are not alone!
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January 28, 2019 at 7:37 am
Of all the RFM traits I guess I find empathy to be the most difficult one to deal with. The inner critical voice keep on asking if I think I’m better and nicer than others, superhuman maybe, an angel maybe. Maybe I’m not treating myself with empathy. Or, what to do?
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January 28, 2019 at 9:38 am
Having lots of empathy for others can be overwhelming and confusing, especially if it’s important to you to help others. Applying some of that empathy for yourself sounds like a great idea, K.
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February 2, 2019 at 9:00 am
I found your blog after reading your 2/1 article on Introvert, Dear (“How I Found a Career That Had Introversion Written All Over It”). Both your article and this post are fantastic and fit me to a T. Despite years of researching introversion and the various facets of the gifted/intellectual categories, I’ve never heard the term “Rainforest Mind”, but I’ve often felt like an outsider and found that the world is definitely set up to favor extroverts, no matter what their intelligence level or capacity for big picture/greater good-level thinking might be. He who yells loudest always finds a seat at the table.
Finding a home in the traditional work world (AKA offices that resemble the social hierarchy of a typical high school) has been a tremendous struggle. My coworkers and bosses always think I’m too quiet and serious and think my attempts to bridge obvious gaps in the workflow and overcome obstacles that others prefer to work around instead of fix are equal to being a control freak. It’s exhausting. But I always find solace in the chance to explore the layers of fellow introverts (gently and slowly of course!) also trapped in an extroverted environment.
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February 2, 2019 at 10:11 am
Thanks for finding me, Erica! Keep reading. It could help to find out more about yourself from the rainforest mind perspective.
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February 5, 2019 at 12:05 am
There is no such thing as “overthinking” IMO, as long as it has not resulted in complete paralysis and an inability to take any further action. The accusation of “overthinking” is typically made by those who rely on rote memorization, and is directed toward people who develop internal models to help understand their observations. Rote memorizers seem to be incapable of understanding the concept and process of mental modeling. I do not offhand know at what level of intelligence the reliance on mental modeling starts to kick in. Maybe you have access to enough information that you could provide some insight on this phenomenon?
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February 5, 2019 at 9:26 am
I’m not sure what you mean by “mental modeling,” Dennis. Sorry! I do write that what we call overthinking is just thinking to the RFM. Then I differentiate that from ruminating. RFMs often do lots of worrying, partly due to their ability to create multiple scenarios in their creative minds. The rumination is something to work to change. Learning relaxation and self-soothing techniques, for example.
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February 12, 2019 at 2:31 pm
I always refer to myself as a social introvert 😂💛 probably more introverted loved this post lovely – so beautifully written 💛
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February 12, 2019 at 2:48 pm
Thank you, smilehacks.
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February 20, 2019 at 2:30 pm
Wow, I think I am *all* of these. And they all manifest in some way in my life, work & writing… regularly! I’ve gotten a better hold of them though. I’m realising more and more just how delicate my mind/body are. Energy management is an ongoing work in progress! Thanks for a great article.
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February 20, 2019 at 2:47 pm
So glad you’ve found us, Jasraj. Read on!
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February 23, 2019 at 12:34 pm
I knew I had a Rainforest Mind as soon as I started reading the description of this blog. This definition confirms it, although I am an ambivert. My husband is an extreme introvert with a Rainforest Mind. I love him more than anyone except Jesus. He dropped out of high school because all they did in class was check homework, and he had no time for homework, because his mom made him work to buy his own groceries (single mom, 5 kids). He is brilliant, and he is still stuck at the grocery store, practically running his Winn-Dixie, but paid part-time hourly and on Medicaid. Ridiculous what a bachelor’s is required for nowadays. Soon he will publish a book with 60 poems in it. I make a blog for him from a fraction of his writings – mostly our love story.
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February 23, 2019 at 12:46 pm
Thanks for sharing, Sharon. Some RFMs don’t finish high school or go to college for a variety of reasons.
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March 30, 2020 at 10:25 am
This is so strange, how could you (a person who lives in another side of Earth) know about me very well? *tears. Thank you so much for this. just want to add, sometimes I can get depressed out of boredom or lack of mental stimulation- almost like losing my purpose (I’m not exaggerating here).. I wonder if it’s normal for other rfm(s) ?
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March 30, 2020 at 10:37 am
Yes, Mellysa. Lack of intellectual stimulation can lead to some depression in RFMs for sure. Some have said they feel it’s a basic need like air and water!
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May 7, 2020 at 3:35 pm
I am so grateful to find your words. I can’t contain my tears because I feel so understood (and welcomed). Things that I already recognized in me, but that always carried a weight of doubts, questions and incomprehension. And your words describe me so well and touches me so deeply and subtly.
Thank you very, very much. It is the best friend I could find!
I already love you!
(I don’t speak English very well, so, review the mistakes. Hahah)
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May 7, 2020 at 5:38 pm
Lillian. Your English is great. I am so happy that you found my blog. I love you, too! ❤
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