You hide. You stay small. You “dumb down.”
Because– (Pick one or more.)
1. It’s not cool to be too smart.
2. Other people will feel bad about themselves.
3. I’ll be lonely.
4. I’ll be ridiculed.
5. I’ll take up too much space.
6. I’ll overshadow others.
7. I’ll become egocentric, arrogant and self-absorbed.
8. My mother was brilliant and she was also abusive. I can’t be like her.
9. It feels dangerous.
10. I’ll outshine my parents and my teachers and I can’t do that.
11. I don’t want to be like my father who used his intellect to be manipulative.
12. I don’t have the time. I have kids to raise.
13. I won’t be able to sustain it and then I’ll disappoint everyone.
14. It’s way too much pressure.
15. I’ll embarrass myself.
16. If I reveal myself and then I fail, it would be devastating.
17. I’m not the smart one.
18. Change is scary and I’m comfortable in my discomfort.
19. I’m used to my habits and routines. Why rock the boat?
20. Did I mention that I’m not really all that smart?
Here’s the thing.
The world needs you to stop hiding.
I mean it.
Now, I don’t want you to do anything that feels too unsafe. But I do want you to realize that all beings will benefit if you express yourself and show us what you’ve got; if you tap that wellspring of intellect, creativity and sensitivity. Your children and grandchildren (and your neighbors’ children and grandchildren) will reap the benefits.
I can help.
It’s my job.
You can come here when you feel lonely.
Now that you know what a rainforest mind looks like, get serious about finding other inquisitive souls. They will support you when you feel misunderstood and hurt.
Psychotherapy provides guidance that can shift and heal patterns and beliefs so that you don’t turn into your mother or your father.
Get yourself out into Nature where you can connect with a spirituality that will support you and guide you. Find your own form of meditation, whether it’s sitting or yoga or writing or painting or poetry or gardening or dancing or running or whatever. Use it to plumb your depths and calm your nervous system.
Then show yourself. To yourself. And to the rest of us.
We’re ready for you.
To my blogEEs: Many thanks to the commenter who inspired this post. And to all of you– for reading, for sharing, and for staying sensitive. Tell us your fears and share your plans for coming out of hiding.