I make a pretty convincing argument in this blog that you have a rainforest mind. In spite of yourself, you have to agree. Right?
On the other hand, when I tell you that you’re gifted, I can see you squirm.
For many reasons.
For one– being told that you’re gifted is both good news and bad news.
It’s bad news when it comes with enormous expectations to achieve “greatness” or when it means that you’re paralyzed by pressure to prove your worth through your achievements. It’s bad news when you can’t risk appearing un-smart so you don’t try anything that might be difficult. It’s bad news if you think you’re either smart or you’re not. It’s bad news when you interpret it to mean that you can never make a mistake or fail at anything. It’s bad news if you use it to hurt others. It’s bad news when you’re bullied or bored at school. It’s bad news if you never learn how to study or apply effort to solve a problem. It’s bad news if you become dependent on praise and believe you always have to be the best at everything.
It’s good news because you will understand why you’ve had particular problems with school, relationships, perfectionism and so on. It’s good news because knowing that you’re naturally extra sensitive and extra perceptive and extra analytical will help you interpret your experiences more accurately. It’s good news if it leads to teachers allowing you to learn at your own level and pace. It’s good news if it helps your parents understand your quirks.
It’s good news because accepting your giftedness will strengthen your capacity to live the life you’re meant to live.
And that will be good news for everyone.
So what do I do?
Do I tell you, or not?
To my bloggEEs: Were you told that you were gifted when you were a child? What did it mean to you? Are you just realizing that you’re gifted now? How do you feel about it? Do you still believe that you’re not gifted but that you’re fooling everyone, including me? What emotions, thoughts and questions do you have?